When I was young and looked at people whose age I am now, I often wondered if their perception of themselves changed when they looked in the mirror, or if they still had the young mind in an older body.Several months after my husband and I separated, it finally occurred to me that I was free to date. The last time I'd been single, I'd had copious amounts of free time, was beholden to no one, and believed in love.Dating a guy my age would be a unique experience for me -- and it's one I'm excited to pursue.Maybe the idea of growing with someone is exciting.But they're girls and I'm their mom, so it was a whole different thing.My older daughter was not cool with my even mentioning my boyfriend and announced that she refused to meet him.
Infants and toddlers won't register that this is Mommy's new boyfriend.
Your married friends will eagerly help you write your profile and, in return, you will provide them much-needed vicarious thrills. Men who haven't been in the parenting trenches, even if they love kids, just seem to speak a different language, one that doesn't necessarily have a translation for phrases such as, "I can't leave my son with a babysitter tonight because he has the flu."On the other hand, dating a man with kids can be a scheduling nightmare, requiring both of you to synchronize with your exes and their new love interests, and the new love interests' exes, ad infinitum.
Julia Landry, the author of the blog Unexpectedly Expecting, where she chronicles her life as the single mom of a 3-year-old, says she prefers to date dads: "They're less likely to unfairly judge me for being a single mom and they understand that my child will always come first." But Landry doesn't promote a hard-and-fast rule.
There's no reason to keep yourself from a potentially amazing relationship, just because society tells you it's weird.
We're all a little weird, and love is beautiful, so that's pretty darn cool if you ask me.